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So how many of you women have tried time and time again to get your man to talk, open up and share his feeling? Well, not me and I guess I’ve been proven right that this is the better way to get along in your relationships. Recently, an article was published by Barbara Graham where they conclude that nonverbal communication should come before verbal communication. They say when you strengthen this nonverbal communication with one another and began to feel connected then men will feel more comfortable talking while women will feel the need to talk less We can connect non-verbally through touch, spending time with one another and of course through great sex! Or ok sex if that’s your thing too.

Read more to find out why men have a problem with communication while on the other hand woman have a problem not communicating. Then my questions for you are 1.) do you think this would work for your relationship and 2.) after centuries of women trying to please their mans (ex. housewife ideology) should you give up your need to communicate to comfort your man if what you need is to talk to feel better?

And here's one point-of-view from the other sex:

communication, Communication, COMMUNICATION!!! For many years, that was the key word to keep any relationship going. Without it we have nothing or do we? To some guys surprise and perhaps happiness the answer is NO. Well not quite the full no guys are looking for, but it is a start. So ladies, there is no need to worry about not trying to get guys to show their emotions. We have been missing out on an important type of communication. That type is non-verbal. Yes guys! A way to get your girl to shut up for once. WRONG! But it is a different way to connect to each other.

This doesn't mean that women should not try to talk. Before trying to communicate with words, try communicating nonverbally. Or before bringing the alarming 'We need to talk' line, try to instill positive feedback over a few days.

And if things are going well, don't always ask the guy how he feels. To be quite honest it is quite uncomfortable even if nothing is wrong. I honestly don't know about most guys, but I do think they feel a lack of confidence about not measuring up to a woman’s expectation. To be a failure in the eyes of the woman one is trying to talk to, in a relationship with or married to is a dreadful feeling. So, before you get mad or annoyed about how we don't open up or listen (which is not true by the way), put yourself in our shoes and try to imagine what we are feeling or going through.

Just remember feelings don't always have to be expressed through words. You probably thinking since I am a guy, I would say sex is the expression I would go with. Even though sex is a great non-verbal cue, it isn't necessarily always the best one and shouldn't really be number one. If a relationship is just built around sex, do you really have one? But anyway, sometimes just taking a walk in the park and enjoying the good weather is all the communication that is needed at the time. Knowing and seeing that the other person is happy to be next to is all that is needed to say I am enjoying this moment!